As another year comes to an end, there is much talk of resolutions. And it seems there are two different camps: those with high hopes and big plans, and those who think it’s an utter waste of time.

I belong to both. There’s just something about a shiny new year that fills me with optimism. It’s a perfect time to reflect on life and identify areas for growth and accomplishments. So, each January, I commit to resolutions… and then proceed to fail miserably. Apparently, this is normal. According to social scientists, only 20% of people experience success. Hence, the utter waste of time sentiment.   

Does it stop me from trying again? Nope. My dreams for 2023 include publishing a selection of writings, completing a bathroom remodel, volunteering at the library, and losing that pesky 10 pounds. All very achievable with the right mindset and a little discipline (that’s what I keep telling myself).

This time, the approach is a bit different; one inspired by my career. As I thought about accomplishments, I remembered the work’s intentionality. Things didn’t occur randomly. It was the product of planning, timelines, communication, and deadlines. There was also great a deal of accountability to students, funders, and colleagues. So, why not take this same effort and apply it to resolutions? Certainly, personal goals deserve the same attention, right?

The first step was purchasing a hardcopy planner (the old-fashioned kind). I once read that the process of writing things down helps with memory and keeps content fresh. Plus, I enjoy being away from the computer and color-coding things with various markers (yep, I’m one of those people).  I found the perfect planner on Amazon called the elephant which provides space to document goals, action plans, and accomplishments. And I was off to a great start.

I also shared my resolutions with family at our New Year’s Day gathering. Somehow, putting thoughts into the universe makes them more real. And it’s helpful to solicit support from loved ones.

How’s it going? Well, it’s only seven weeks in, and it’s been hit-and-miss. I’m officially a library volunteer and have made some progress with the writing. However, there’s been zero movement on the weight loss and renovations. Small victories but I’ll take it.

I’ve been reminded that it’s important to invest in oneself; devoting the same care and attention given to careers and family. Retirement makes it easy to let things slide. Time is forgiving and demands are few. But at this stage of life, self-care is critical, and achieving goals is a boost for self-worth. So, be your biggest advocate and make things happen whether it’s under the guise of resolutions or not.

It’s way too early to know whether I’ll be one of the 20% who reaches success but I’m going to give it my best shot. Happy 2023 everyone!